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My boyfriend took me to a "restaurant" recently. It turned out that this place wasn't meant for people to eat but to rather make out. As we entered, we were asked to go upstairs
into one of their innumerable cubicles. The cubicles were so tiny that I had to sit very close to my boyfriend, almost on his lap! There were no waiters. We could order food by phone, only if we wanted. We had been
dating for several months but have no physical relationship. I want to save my virginity for marriage and have no intention to have sex to keep the boyfriend. I had told my boyfriend of my intentions and he had no
problem with it. However, as we sat in the cubicle, I began wondering whether he really was what he seemed to be. His elbow was touching my breast and he was clearly aroused. We heard moans and groans from the
neighboring cabins. So, nobody was interested in eating, it seemed. My boyfriend began kissing me. At this point, I walked out. I think he knew about this "restaurant" in advance but hid it from me. He probably
thought I would go along with him. Now I do not talk to him. My friends think I am really mean. They tell me "sex is a natural desire" and that I should have let him, kiss and caress without actual sex. Who is right?
Sexual desire may be a natural thing but humans are intelligent enough to control them and plan accordingly. Or else, we would be like cats delivering kittens every six months! Today's generation has learnt a lesson
from the AIDS epidemic and STDs that we must plan and protect ourselves while having sex. Your decision was right to walk out because your boyfriend was trying to take advantage of you and was even trying to
manipulate you by taking you to a sleazy place. However, you should have a discussion with him on what his intentions were. If he claims to be innocent, stop dating him because he is a liar. If he agrees that he
intended to have sex with you but will never repeat his behavior again, you should probably give him a chance.
My husband is awesome. He brings me flowers, takes me to romantic dinners, calls me to say "I love you" about 3 times a day. But I am bored because everything is so predictable. I
know exactly what he will say when he calls; I know when to expect flowers; I know what restaurant we would go to and so on. We are married for only 3 years and already it seems like our lives are so monotonous and
boring. I like surprises, wild adventures and an exciting romance. Can you suggest something to rev up our lives?
It seems to me that the problem lies with you. What are you doing in return for the flowers, dinners and I love you calls - other than accepting them and complaining that they are boring? May be you should plan
surprises, adventures that you think you would enjoy. Be honest with your husband and divert your activities. Go camping, join hobby courses, learn new languages.....
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