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Hi, I am 35 years old. Right from my childhood, I was considered a tomboy. I liked whatever boys liked- sports, hiking, playing with construction sets and so on. Thanks to my
hobbies and interests, my friends were mostly boys. When I reached adolescence, nothing changed. The boys continued to be my friends and remained as friends. I did not feel anything was bizarre because I felt the
same way as they did. My mom thought there was something wrong with me because I never felt attracted to a single man. Essentially, the same situation continued after I graduated and took my first job. Now most of
my male friends are married and confess their marital problems to me. I try to help them as a person rather than as a woman. I hope you understand what I mean. Now my question -Am I abnormal? Surely, I am not gay
because I do not even feel close to a woman. But then, why don't I feel attracted to a man? Is there really such a thing like hermaphrodite?
You are normal heterosexual woman. The fact that you are not attracted to any man because you haven't found any attractive man. Stop mixing with the married men who talk behind their wives' back. Such bickering may
actually put you off any relationship. Instead, try to meet single men with varied interests, join some clubs, go camping. I assure you, you will find one who thinks like you someday.
In your earlier column, you said fat people should not feel bad for the fact that the attractive people ignore them because love needs is more than beauty. I agree with you to
some extent. I am an attractive person and I admit ignoring overweight girls in the bars. But at the same time, I do not take slim women for granted. When I look at a girl who is overweight, I conclude that the girl
does not have self-control and is lazy or may be obsessed with eating. I am looking for a person who thinks beyond food, has self-control and is dynamic. The same applies to the slim girls who are lazy or lack
self-control. However, I give them a chance because such weaknesses are not apparent in them. Besides, I am avoiding a person with an inherited obesity with high risk health problems. I am a healthy, fit man. Am I
wrong in looking for a healthy woman who not only shares my interests but can give me healthy children? Of course, I don't have a lot of time on my hands and my age does not wait to date every woman I meet.....
Okay, may be I was a little harsh but still your behavior doesn't justify ignoring overweight women. I mean, you don't have to date all of the women you meet but to prove that a nice man you pretend to be, you should
at least greet them. Ignoring people, slim or fat, men or women, does not come across as good behavior. Rather it tells others how calculating or cold they are. However, you may have spared the women from wasting
their greeting on a man who doesn't care about them. And, I shudder to think of the slim girl that you finally decide to marry would help you to produce the more of you. I can't stop thinking what happens if your
children, even from a slim lady, happen to be perpetually overweight? Don't tell me you rather lose their custody......
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